It Doesn't Interest Me read & adapted from a poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer by Megan Miller It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for. Have you touched the center of your own sorrow? of your own joy? Can you feel pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, fade it or fix it? Can you feel joy? Can you dance with the wildness and let ecstacy fill to the tips of your fingers and toes throwing caution to the wind? It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you can see beauty, even if it's not pretty every day. Can you be true to yourself, even at the risk of disappointing another? Can you be faithful to yourself, and therefore trustworthy to another? It doesn't matter where you live or how much money you make. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. When you are alone with yourself, do you truely like the company you keep? And in the hardest of times, will you stand in the center of that fire with me and not shrink back? All these questions, we cannot help but ask ourselves before we give our hearts away. Now, my heart is yours, and yours is mine. For you I will risk being a fool for love. I will risk following our wildest dreams. And together we will share this wonderful adventure of being alive.

In the inital stages of planning, one of the things that we spoke of often was how our ceremony was going to go. It was important to us both that whatever words were spoken in our ceremony meant something to us, these were the words that were going to shape the tone of the day, and frankly the tone of our relationship - we wanted something that rang true to us. Since neither of us where particularly religious, it became harder to find unique and interesting wordings, quotes and other random assemblages of words that captured our quirky need to laugh at each other while still conveying a sense of seriousness.

Being a child of the online generation, I of course turned to the internet for help. My google-fu led me to sites such as quoteland (which in turn lead our wedding to suddenly develop a 'theme', which in the begining when asked if we had a theme, our standard answer was: nice), the kvetch anti-bride message boards, and livejournal wedding planning communities. It was hard to narrow down our top picks of quotes, readings and word snippets but in the end we were able to provide our wonderful and patient officiant, Tim Huntley, with a word document titled: ' Some Random Assemblages of Words That Sound Nice Together. This document contained in semi outline format a list of 5 quotes, a numbered list from 1 to 11 of sayings, a few ceremony blurbs and a reading we liked. Amazingly, Tim managaged to weave what we gave him along with his own personal comments, which was one reason we asked him to be our officiant. He knew us and was able to lend a very personal note to the ceremony, it meant a lot more to Eric and I to have some we knew and liked personally standing up with us.